The burden of choice

December 30th, 2007 by Celeste

This week feels far removed from my usual life. Though certainly not removed from life itself – an ironic statement for tending to the needs of the living after a loved one has died.

It’s the heart of winter – solstice, the longest night of the year. A few friends gather around a table for sushi and sake. The sushi I help roll, the sake is too much for me… Continue reading


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Interview - a valuable social function, and why women don’t buy sex

December 19th, 2007 by Celeste

I’ve been giving an interview over email, to a person doing academic research on sex work. Here is an excerpt.

J__ <@> wrote:

I wanted to ask next about your experience of the demand side of the work. For example, do you have any clients with any physical or learning disabilities at all? And if you do, do you feel in this way that your work offers a valuable social function by… Continue reading


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Healing Sex DVD

December 12th, 2007 by Celeste

I just saw one of the best healing and learning videos I’ve ever seen. It’s ‘Healing Sex: the complete guide to sexual wholeness’ by Staci Haines.

Though why people ever say ‘the complete guide’ is beyond me. Nothing is that complete. I guess buyers want to think that it is.

But – this video, though not complete, is awesome. It’s actually for people who have experienced sexual trauma, and their partners. Sexual… Continue reading


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Meditation on a Massage

December 7th, 2007 by Celeste

More poems from the Christian mystic.

Meditation on a Massage

I. In Memory of Her

How did it feel, Lord, when she poured the oil on your head?
Did she knead it into your scalp? Pull it through your hair?
Did she wipe it from your brow?
Did she follow your cheek bones under your eyes?
Did you drop your tunic, let her knead your mortal clay, fill in the stripes to come, the spear point in… Continue reading


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Ugly

December 2nd, 2007 by Celeste

The realization came while I was barely waking up. That’s when many of them do, actually - one of my most creative times.

I few days ago I was exploring with a friend. This is a person who knows me very well, and our explorations are emotionally vulnerable, on both sides. At the end of our time together he did something I didn’t like. It wasn’t awful, wasn’t even so out… Continue reading


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