Getting naked
When do we get naked? I hear myself ask a gathering of friends. There are about 40 of us, gathered here this weekend to share our thoughts and skills and support and network. I have already led a little workshop, a clothed one, about clarity of requests and boundaries, and another one about intentions and touch. Everyone seemed to learn a lot and I’m ready for some play time.
There is a moment of a little tension, just barely noticeable. Many folks here are erotic professionals of various kinds, but that doesn’t mean they’ve experienced group play. I have, and I miss it.
A little more talking, as I realize I need to say enough to set folks at ease – this will not be a workshop, I say, but I will host enough to help people feel comfortable. Clothing will be optional, sexual play will be optional, as long as it’s consensual. What I’m personally interested in is rolling around on the floor with a few other oiled bodies. I’m not particularly looking for an orgy, though I don’t object to explicit sex play in the room. I’m not yet sure how sexual I will want to be. The key ingredient is that we are all grownups (which of course we are) and all able to attend to our wishes and boundaries and respect each other’s. You are welcome to come and hang out without any expectation of doing anything. I will set up the room and be there at 8; you can join us any time.
A couple of others arrive early and help spread blankets and sheets and pillows around the floor. We cover the couch and chairs with sheets too, for bare bottoms. I’m having trouble finding just the right music – feeling mellow but sensual, then finally a compilation that works. (putumayo’s global soul). Surprise, surprise, we each begin a strip show for the others, each one more hilarious than the one before. Each new guest joins the show, and soon the floor is full of about 15 naked new friends. Perfect!
I’m ready to make out with the cutie next to me, but remember my promise to host a little. So I invite us each to speak about what we might like to experience so that it’s easier to find someone with your interests – you don’t have to feel awkward, especially for beginners. I start with my rolling-around-with-oiled-bodies, and follows – I’d love a massage by 4 people at once, I’m mostly interested in men, but welcome women for exploring, anything goes as long as there’s no permanent or irreversible bodily harm, I’ve had a fantasy about X- all day, I’ve had a fantasy about X- and you all day, so may I join you?, I’m feeling tentative and will watch for a while, I’ve never done this before and have no idea, I love giving head to any and all takers, I want a whole pile of men, I want to snuggle with women, and so on.
I suggest we start with this side of the room for more active play, and that side for massages, so that the massages don’t get rolled on accidentally - and everyone seemed to ease right in to their choices and connections. Several opt for the group massage – an easy way to ease into play, with clearer boundaries and expectations, and the chance for 6 or 8 hands on you at once is not to be missed! Others are already snuggling and whispering.
I turn back to that cutie . . .